Over the years I have attended many weddings - big to small, lavish to simple, professionally planned on a vast budget to a DIY – all hands to the pump low budget. The memories of some have faded with time but others remain more vivid.
One wedding that sticks in my mind was a good friend’s who only had 16 of us to their wedding. The bride had decided to wear a smart suit rather than a wedding dress but the day before the wedding suddenly realised she actually did want to look like a bride and hurried off to a local wedding dress hire shop. Having tried every dress on and found nothing right the owner of the shop shot upstairs and brought down her own wedding dress for her to try on - a 60s number complete with enormous daisies, a square neckline and flowing sleeves.
To put this in context the wedding was in the 1990s and 1960s dresses would never have been contemplated as something you would wear on your wedding day; Fancy dress parties, yes but your actual wedding day, no way! My friend tried on the dress to find it fitted perfectly. The morning of her wedding she picked some wild flowers and made a simple ring of them for her hair. She looked like a boho bride twenty years before it was fashionable; she looked absolutely perfect.
The bride was a chef and, to her, food was paramount and had ensured our six course meal was spot on. With such a small amount of guests we all felt incredibly honoured to be invited and we sat around on large table as if it were a very smart dinner party. By having so few guests they were able to spend more money on superb food and great wine. It was a truly memorable wedding day for me - less really was more.
This wedding was poles apart from another wedding we had been to a few months before. The bride’s father completely went to town, even digging a lake on their property so that when the enormous marquee was assembled there was a perfect view across the water. The bride’s dress was an exact copy of the dress Audrey Hepburn wore to the ball in My Fair Lady with hair to match. She did look beautiful and the marquee impressive.
As the couple left the church a stunning old convertible car was waiting to take them back to the reception. We were carefully lined up to throw confetti - especially dried rose petals in little baskets which was a very novel idea in those days. We quickly hid our packets of shop bought ones and threw the pretty petals over our friends.
As they got settled in the car a little boy had been watching us and picked up a big pile of grass cuttings, leaves and twigs and lobbed them right at the bride’s head. Oh dear…there she sat, totally horrified completely covered in churchyard debris - not quite the plan at all but incredibly funny at the time. I don’t remember the food or much else about the wedding which shows that money doesn’t necessarily make memories but the image of this little boy wanting to be part of the fun is one that has stuck with me for decades.
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